From Army Wife to Life Coach: My Journey of Resilience and Transformation

Life has a way of leading us down unexpected paths. If you had told me years ago that I would become a life coach, I probably would have laughed in disbelief. My journey has been one of resilience, self-discovery, and transformation—a journey that I now use to help others navigate their own challenges.

As an army wife with three children, life was a constant whirlwind. Every two years, we packed up our lives and moved to a new place, always starting over, always adjusting. While it was an adventure in many ways, it was also exhausting, both physically and emotionally. I had to be the pillar of strength for my family, ensuring that my children felt stable despite the ever-changing surroundings.

After the birth of my second child, something shifted within me. I began experiencing anxiety and depression—feelings I had never encountered before. At the time, I had no idea how to manage it apart from relying on medication. Mental health wasn’t openly discussed, and I felt isolated in my struggles. For years, I lived in a state of just ‘getting through the day,’ unaware that there could be another way.

Then, in what seemed like a random twist of fate, I decided to go back to college. My initial goal was simply to do something for myself, but what I found was a career I never thought I would love—teaching. What started as a practical decision turned into a passion. I thrived in the classroom, mentoring and guiding students, helping them unlock their potential. However, despite my success, imposter syndrome constantly whispered in my ear. Was I really good enough? Did I deserve to be here? Still, I pushed through and spent 17 fulfilling years as an educator.

But the latter years of teaching became increasingly difficult. The politics of the institution and government policies drained the joy out of the work I loved. Then came COVID-19—a storm that changed everything. My workload multiplied overnight. I had to learn new methods of teaching on the fly, all while grappling with an overwhelming sense of exhaustion and despair. My mental health plummeted to a place I had never been before. I found myself unable to get out of bed, struggling to find motivation for even the smallest tasks.

During this time, my son and daughter were expecting their first child. Becoming a Grandmother should have been one of the most exciting moments of my life, but I felt nothing. That was my wake-up call. I realised I couldn’t continue down this path—I had to make a change.

So, I did something I never imagined: I resigned. The moment I made that decision, I felt an immense weight lift off my shoulders. It was terrifying, but also freeing. I finally had the space to focus on myself, to figure out what truly mattered.

Since leaving teaching, I have embarked on a new journey—one of entrepreneurship, personal growth, and, most importantly, balance. I’ve started businesses that align with my values, allowing me to work on my own terms. More importantly, I discovered my true calling through a business coach—helping others navigate their personal and professional development. From dealing with depression and anxiety with medication to practicing mindfulness, from teaching in the Further Education sector to mentoring and coaching individuals, I now understand that my experiences, skills, and expertise can make a difference in other people’s lives.

I am in a really good place now, but I still need to work on my health and mental well-being, and I will for as long as I am living. But I am now living my best life, embracing each day with purpose and passion.